Daily Archives: October 4, 2011

Duller Than Blunt Chalk

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“Dan Frank”

Sharper Iron Banner

was doing his best to explain the problem with the original Bob Jones University Sexual Assault and Molestation Policy, but he linked to this blog.

Bless Dan Frank’s heart, he was speaking with some dull tools.

Susan R. pipes up, “I see it fer myself”

Susan R. refuses to believe, although it was checked out by this blog and by Dan Frank with BJU that this faculty/staff handbook is the same for all Bob Jones Faculty and Staff whether the employee works as a computer technician, helper or teacher at the Child Development Center,  Bob Jones Academy (K-12) or Bob Jones University.  This faculty/staff handbook also covers nurses who work at the Campus Hospital and/or the doctor’s office associated with Bob Jones.

Wait a minute…Susan R?

Scratching head.

That name sounds familiar.

Oh I remember now.  Susan R.!!!! This Susan R?

Yep, it would appear that is the same Susan R. who berated Anna Walker for being very close to violating the “Comment Policy” of Sharper Iron, which Susan states “prohibits assigning motives or focusing negatively on the participants in the threads.  Let’s stick to the facts.”   Then turns around and assigns blame to a child who is abducted because they got into a strangers car, because in her eyes the child is somehow responsible for that act of crime because of the child’s disobedience.

(Psst… never-mind,  that this thread was not about Child abduction but Elizabeth Vargus’ year long investigation into the IFB.)

Seems that Susan R. and the posters she likes (Ken Woodard, Jay C, Aaron Blummer, etc) can break rules all they want.

Now since Chuckles ain’t so smart, Chuckles had to look up that fancy word, amature.  Chuckles had to use that thar’ Urban Dictionary to figure out what that big man meant!  Yessireee!

Amature: A word used by those of a lesser intelligence to berate those of higher intelligence.
Example: “That would be so amature”. What it really means is “You’re better than I am, I suck at life. Please God, put me out of my misery.”
Amature:  n. growth produced on damp organic matter; pattern

Example: “You have mold on your brain…. muahahahaha”
“You are lacking experience of or “expertise”
amateurish adj. “lol, amateur”

Dan Frank is trying his best, but is being shot down.  Finally Chip Van Emmerick comes on and writes, “Seems like a no-brainer”

The next morning Bob Jones University changed its policy to make their policy compliant with South Carolina state law.

But those pesky Federal Laws.

Aaron Blummer responds those pesky federal laws wouldn’t refer to BJU, because “I don’t think BJU participates, [in federal student aid programs] do they?”

Bob Jones University participates in South Carolina State, Federal and veterans Student financial aid programs.  BJU is happy to allow a student and the students parents to get into financial hock to get their BJU non-regionally accredited degree.

Aaron, Aaron!  It appears that you fit the term amuture.  You can thank, Ken Woodard for teaching Chuckles the new word.  

Twelve Things to Never Tell a Sexual Assault Survivor

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A few days ago, I posted thirteen positive suggestions to those who find themselves needing to help a sexual assault survivor.  Neither of these lists are all-inclusive.

1) Don’t tell Sexual assault a sexual assault survivor that  God is punishing the survivor  for some misdeed by allowing the assault to occur.

2)  Don’t ever ask a sexual assault survivor if the survivor liked any part of the assault.

3) Don’t tell a sexual assault survivor why such a thing would never happen “to you,” or someone you know, and why.  That is very demeaning.  Sexual assault occurs across all socioeconomic, racial, gender, “beauty” and religious backgrounds.

4) Don’t tell a sexual assault survivor that it was God’s will the assault occurred.  Imagine if you were the one being told that God was the one sent, allowed, or influenced someone to hurt another person in the most heinous way short of murder. This is not useful and further skews the survivors view of God.  May I suggest, that the focus be on how God helps the survivor heal.  Examples such as how He acquainted with our sufferings.  The Focus should to be  on His love and care for the survivor at this time.   

 5)  Don’t tell a sexual assault survivor not to talk about it.

 6)  Don’t ever say anything to a sexual assault survivor about how she responds after the assault is sin.  Often people berate the survivor.  Instructing the survivor to not be angry, not be depressed, etc. Then label such things as sin.  Whatever sin’s there may or may not be, leave that to the Holy Spirit to deal with.  The Holy Spirit doesn’t need your help.

 7)  Don’t tell a sexual assault survivor to go to the attacker and ask the criminal (whether convicted or not) for forgiveness for anger and bitterness that the survivor may have against the person who committed this crime against them.

8 )  Don’t tell a sexual assault survivor about how others have it worse than they do.

9)  Don’t blame a sexual assault survivor for what happened.  

10) Don’t tell a sexual assault survivor what happened to them was “no big deal.”

11) Don’t say to a sexual assault survivor such things as,  ”Well, it’s been six months (a year, 5 years, 15 years, etc.) and ask why the survivor isn’t “over it” yet. 

12) Don’t ask or insinuate that a sexual assault survivor  could have done anything different before or during the assault to avoid it from occurring.